WHAT I WISH SOMEONE HAD SHARED WITH ME WHEN I WAS YOUNGER .....

 BEING  60 YEARS OLD I STARTED THINKING ABOUT WHAT I WISH SOMEONE HAD SHARED WITH ME WHEN I WAS YOUNGER , SOMETHING THAT WOULD HAVE SAVED ME A LOT OF STRESS AND WORRY BECAUSE ONE THING THAT I DO KNOW IS THAT MOST THINGS THAT WE SPEND A LOT OF TIME STRESSING ABOUT REALLY AREN'T EVEN WORTH STRESSING ABOUT AT ALL 

I HAVE ALWAYS TRIED TO THINK LIKE THIS ABOUT THINGS THAT I WOULD OFTEN DWELL ABOUT ....
1. REMEMBER IF THE THING THAT YOU ARE STRESSING ABOUT IS NOT  A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH, THEN IT'S NOT SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULD CONTINUE TO DWELL ON ABOUT . 

2 WE OFTEN SPEND WAY TOO MUCH TIME TRIPPING ABOUT OTHER WOMEN -MEN , WHEN WE REALLY SHOULD TRY AND LEARN THAT IN DOING SO , YOU ARE GIVING THAT PERSON WHO HAS OCCUPIED YOUR THOUGHT 'S  YOUR POWER AND TOO MUCH CONTROL TO OCCUPY SPACE WITH-IN YOUR HEAD THAT THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE . 

NO ONE PERSON DESERVES TO BE SOMEONE THAT YOU BECOME OBSESSED OVER , ESPECIALLY SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T EVEN SPEND ANY TIME ALSO THINKING ABOUT YOU . INSTEAD TRY AND FILL THAT TIME LEARNING SOMETHING USEFULL , LIKE REMEMDIES TO CURE SOMETHING IE. A SORE THROAT , LEARN HOW TO WRITE A NOVEL . LEARN HOW TO MAKE A POSITIVE IMPACT IN THE LIVES OF OTHERS , OR LEARN HOW TO INVEST IN THE STOCK MARKET , LEARN A NEW HAIRDO OR LEARN HOW TO  TURN A BAD MOOD INTO A GOOD MOOD , LEARN A NEW FOREIGN LANGUAGE ETC  BY LEARNING HOW TO BETTER USE THE TIME THAT YOU ONCE ONLY USED TO OBSESS ABOUT SOMETHING THAT WAS NOT IN YOUR CONTROL  YOU CAN SLOWLY CHANGE AND CONTROL YOUR OWN WORLD FOR THE BETTER . 

IF A MAN IS THE ISSUE  REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE AMAZING WITH OR WITH-OUT HIM AND IF YOU WORK ON YOURSELF YOU CAN SHOW THAT PERSON THAT YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE THAN JUST A WORRIER . TURN YOURSELF INTO AN EXPERT ON A PARTICULAR SUBJECT , THAT WAY WHEN THAT SPECIAL PERSON COMES AROUND HE OR SHE WILL SEE A WHOLE NEW SIDE OF YOU THAT PRIOR TO THAT DAY YOU HAD NOT EXZIBITE, ALSO START A GRATTITUDE JOURNAL , SPEND 30 MINS EACH DAY /NIGHT WRITING DOWN ALL OF THE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU ARE TRULY GRATEFUL FOR LARGE OR SMALL , THEN IN A YEAR YOU WILL BE AMAZED AT YOUR OWN PERSONAL GROWTH AND BEGIN TO REALLY FEEL THAT YOU ARE AN AMAZING AND BLESSED PERSON . ONCE YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND-SET FROM THAT OF TRIVIAL THOUGHTS OF WHAT SOMEONE ELSE IS DOING OR NOT DOING WHICH ARE ACTUALLY THINGS THAT YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER , AND START USING THAT GOOD ENERGY FOR THINKING AND DOING THINGS IN YOUR LIFE THAT YOU DO CONTROL , LIKE YOUR POSITIVE THOUGHTS  YOUR WHOLE LIFE WILL BEGIN TO TAKE ON A WHOLE NEW FORMATION  BECAUSE WITHIN EVERY WORRY  OR CONCERN IS A SOLUTION JUST WAITING TO BE DISCOVERED , SO PAY ATTENTION TO HOW AND WHAT YOU SPEND YOUR TIME ON , AFTERALL TIME IS ONE THING THAT YOU CAN NEVER GET BACK , SO SPEND YOURS WISELY .

 NEVER ALLOW YOUR FEARS OF LOSS OF ANOTHER OR YOUR FEARS OF BEING ALONE MAKE YOU SO WORRIED THAT YOU STOP ENJOYING THE "RIGHT-NOW"  , BECASUE AGTERALL RIGHT-NOW IS ALL THAT YOU CAN CONTROL NEVER INTENTIONALLY TRY TO CONTROL THE ACTIONS OR THOUGHTS OF ANOTHER ESPECIALLY IN THE NEGATIVE BECAUSE NEGATIVE ACTIONS HAVE A BOOMERANG EFFECT AND WILL ALWAYS COME BACK AROUND TO STRIKE YOU RIGHT BACK  IN THE FACE -ALWAYS TRY AND LEAD A LIFE BASED ON KINDNESS , LOVE AND JOY FOR THE "RIGHT-NOW" AS THIS IS WHAT YOU CAN ACTUALLY CONTROL WHICH IS YOUR REACTION  SO START MAKING A POSITIVE CHANGE IN YOUR THINKING ABOUT THE SITUATION AS MOST TIMES WE  TEND TO FOCUS ON THE WORSE-CASE SENERIO  RATHER THAN THE FACT THAT THERE IS NOTHING THAT WOULD CHANGE YOUR WORLD SO DRASTICLY THAT EVEN IF THE WORST CASE WERE TO HAPPEN , YOU WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO SURVIVE , BECAUSE ONCE YOU TAKE BACK YOUR POWER TO CONTROL YOUR OWN DESTINY YOU HAVE CONCORED THE MEANING OF WALKING IN YOUR OWN -POWER ! 

YOU ARE AMAZING AND ANY ONE WHO MAKES YOU  FEEL THAT DREADED FEELING OR HAVING TO WORRY ABOUT THEIR LOYALITY OR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH  ETC QUITE FRANKLY DOESN'T DESERVE YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE ! NEVER LET THE THOUGHT OF THEM REPLACING  WITH SOMEONE ELSE MAKEYOU FALL INTO A STATE OF DESPARE  OR FEAR TO THE POINT WHERE IT INSTANTLY  TAKESAWAY YOUR PEACE  , YOUR FEELING OF  JOY  AND YOUR SENSE OF LOVE FOR YOURSELF  BECAUSE NO ONE HAS THAT RIGHT AND THOSE WHO DO THAT SHOULD BE SHOWN THE DOOR  BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR YOUR GREATNESS IN THE FIRST PLACE .