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"It is a lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion toward others. If we make friends with ourselves, then there is no obstacle to opening our hearts and minds to others." -Anonymous
To enhance compassion is to check your own envy. Envy is pervasive and pernicious in our current culture. Social media notoriously stokes envy, magnifying our own sense of lack and encourages us to even enjoy others’ misfortune (celebrity gossip makes a killing off of our envy).
Envy can be hard to deal with, but I like to encourage people to see it as desire in disguise. Perhaps someone else’s good fortune can lead you to setting a goal for yourself. Envy is only a problem when it makes you want to tear others down. What if it could help you lift yourself up? If it can, then envy can lead you to compassion by becoming curious about another person’s struggle to reach the goal you would like to reach yourself.
What if you knew more about another person’s struggles or inner world? What if you learned that the person you struggle to feel compassion for also has a critical mother or a domineering father? Perhaps both you and the individual you can’t seem to feel empathy for both have a child with the same learning difficulty, medical issue, or style of acting out?
The more you can relate the other person’s life to your own and see them as an avatar for yourself, the more you learn about yourself.
This benefits us too, not just others. I see in my practice all the time people learn about their biggest pain points and darkest emotions by having some profound and unexpected fit of compassion for someone they see suffer on the news. Connecting with yourself and connecting with others go hand in hand.
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