Stay at Home Moms , Changing Lives

ABC-123

Life is much more simpler than one thinks. We believe otherwise because we have been enveloped in the many stressors that occupy life each day. From the media to the internet to our jobs to the comfort of our homes, going and coming, prices of this and that, education, children, the weather, fiances, we could go on and on about the so called many stresses that stress the people constantly!

When I write, I select and design my writings and visuals precisely to let others know through my writings the positive qualities of life and the beauty of all things no matter what it is. Many are finding each and everyday, life to be hectic and it doesn't have to be so.

Life is as simple as ABC-123 when you separate your needs, wants and expectations. I realize this is how those who are in power can subdue us into things that are not in line with our lifestyle, by what they know as urges and needs of the people. If something is put before the people and you are told you need it and are not told why you need it and you rush to acquire it, it becomes a cognitive stressors in our lives. We become fearful that if we don't get it or have it we are missing out. We become perplexed with our lives. We get anxious and overly fearful that really amounts to nothing after the storm passes and we are able to see much more clearly

It has been mentioned and stated that there are 8 cognitive skills we engage in:

Cognitive Skills: Why The 8 Core Cognitive Capacities

Sustained Attention. ...
Response Inhibition. ...
Speed of Information Processing. ...
Cognitive Flexibility and Control. ...
Multiple Simultaneous Attention. ...
Working Memory. ...
Category Formation. ...
Pattern Recognition.

Are you stress, why?

In the process of our ability to sustained our attention to pattern recognition, we still have stressors that might impair some or all of those mention above. Below is life's most stressful situations according to Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale:

The 10 "Most" Stressful life events are:

Death of a spouse (or child*): 100
Divorce: 73
Marital separation: 65
Imprisonment: 63
Death of a close family member: 63
Personal injury or illness: 53
Marriage: 50
Dismissal from work: 47
Marital reconciliation: 45
Retirement: 45

Most of us if not all will experience some of these stressors. But it can become so stressful to the point that you can become sick

If you check off what has happen in your life from the list above and add the numbers than compare it to this chart will give you an idea what you are going through and how it is affecting you and your body.

80% likelihood of illness for scores over 300
50% likelihood of illness for scores between 150-299
30% likelihood of illness for scores less than 150

I believe that an open mind and an open heart to the challenges of life are a gateway for growth, experiences and should not be wholeheartedly overwhelming because we can't control what is not in our power to control. Although how we think according to many motivational and spiritual teachers, scientists and many others seem to mold our environment. I can't without a doubt tell someone how they must grieve or how they will react if they loose a job, or become financially at a hardship etc. But I can say that if we reprogram how we react to life's constant challenges we would save ourselves a lot of physical pain and depression would be much lower.

What I mean is if you are as old as I am than you have been through some things, but what I learned in my youthful days, were preparing me for the times like death, fiances, jobs, children, home, responsibility etc. We all know that some of these things like this will confront us without a doubt. But how do you prepare yourself for life changing events?

By believing that it is a part of life and that all things are beautiful no matter what. Be grateful what you do have and pass on that love, wisdom and joy that you experience. Remember there are some things that are totally out of your control and it is meant to be for a higher understanding and learning! I know it is not easy, for we are of a humanistic nature and we become attached, and that is because we are thinking creatures. We love, we hate, we experience joy and happiness, sadness, we are up one minute and down the next.

This is the reason that I write poetry and short stories of a sort to up lift our spirit to have fun and to experience life from another perspective. We are a work in progress, us living souls, but it is all good, because I have found out in all these years there are good people doing good and great things and that is what helps us see it through no matter what it may be.

Below is the link to the information I got for the 10 stressful life events and there are more which are further expressed on this site, so visit the site and read them.

https://paindoctor.com/top-10-stressful-life-events-holmes-rahe-stress-scale/

Me and my writings aim to design and develop experiences through my writings to make peoples lives simpler!